HOLDING YOUR TONGUE!

Appalling of hearing the accusation that we are too aggressive or pushy, we will often avoid saying things that should legitimately be said. How many times have you withheld comment, only to have others applause for saying exactly what should be said?

The accusations of being to pushy are designed to keep you quiet. They are ploys to make you feel bad about having an opinion or alternative viewpoint! Holding your tongue only serves to make you frustrated and appear less willing than you really are to speak up for what you believe.

Disagree without being disagreeable. You can do by first acknowledging what the other person said, then giving your opinion. Take more risks with giving your opinions, practice giving your opinion , it gets easier every time you do it.

Don’t disregards the customs and traditions of your ancestors, but be more selective about how, when and where you apply them.

To counterbalance the feeling of being too aggressive, after you have expressed your opinion you could add an inquiry. For example, “that’s how I see it”. I am curious to know what others think.