OVERLY CONCERNED WITH ANTISOCIALlSING OTHERS!

An interesting phenomenon i have observes is when man is controversial or offers a different viewpoint, neither man nor woman respond as if they have been offended. They may be angry or hurt, but the man is rarely accused of acting inappropriately. Because women are more likely to encounter resistance by being told they are out of line, they tend to agree (even when they don't really agree) and fail to confront tough issues. This is just another one of the those ploys people use against us and we unwittingly buy into it. If someone acts offended by a legitimate request or concern of yours, the implied message is that you have acted inappropriately or done something wrong. As a result, they know you are more likely to back down. When you back down often enough, you have trained others to feign offence as a defensive posture. It becomes a self defeating catch. When expressing a controversial or different viewpoint, use the technique of contrasting what you do want and what you don't want. Let others know you what you are about to say is difficult for you. However, if you know you have expressed yourself inoffensively, and the other person is still offended, don't acquiesce. Instead with a simple acknowledgement of his or her feelings. Avoid the inclination to backpedal and negate your true sentiments.