A LADY LEADER!

Today i write specifically on nasty lady leaders - not as a type of leader, but because there is a large misunderstanding of gender - specific behavior, and the approach of a lady leader is usually different from that of a male leader. I want this article to correct misunderstanding about lady leaders who may not actually be nasty.

Most of the time the perception of "someone of gender" being "nasty" is a misunderstanding. Men and women are far more different from each other than we ever thought. And women are far more powerful than they think. In leadership, the power of a woman doesn't not lie in how much a woman can act like a man. This is a mistake that some women make in leadership. For example, in our society, when a man is angry, he is seen as being assertive, but when a woman is angry, she is seen as being a bitch. When a woman tries to act like man using her angry to prove a point, she may notice it doesn't have the effect that she wants so she overcompensates by turning up the intensity. That is usually perceived by men as going from bitchy to demented. The respect is diminished, the result is not what she wanted.

Allow me to generalize here, when a man perceives his power as what he does. His accomplishments gives him his confidence and esteem. A woman's power lies in her being - who she is. When a man deals with a woman later in his life - whether as a leader or significant other - he allows his self - esteem to be more vulnerable by putting it in her hands. He does that unconsciously. She becomes significant to him and what she thinks of him becomes very important to him, even-though she is not completely aware this is going on in his mind and emotions.

Lady leader is perceived as being nasty when they try to act like men. They are perceived as being nasty when they try to get a man to live up to his potential. One sees this in a marriage where a lady marries a man for his potential and then proceeds to make him her "home improvement project". This goes on in the workplace as well. A man may perceive his lady leader as "dissatisfied" "nagging" and "complaining" and may feel he can never please her. She is just trying to get him to be the man that she knows he can be. She is showing faith in him. Men like acceptance to a fault. He feels she doesn't accept him for who he is.

Male leaders however, usually have more concerns about deadlines and less concerns about maintaining a relationship. Lady leaders tend to do the maintenance that relationships require (venting to clear the air, not harboring resentment, etc.). Male leaders care about what a other male leaders think of their abilities, but they are concerned with what a lady leader thinks of them personally.

Lady leaders do not appreciate name calling "bitch", she doesn't like it. However, men can be called jerk, an ass, and other names without getting so upset. Men get angry when you hurt their feelings, that happens when you attack their self - esteem. That doesn't mean one should stroke the ego. There is a big difference between ego and self - esteem.

Women have shaped our civilization for many years, the hand that rocks the cradle has been a subtle but powerful influence.

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