NEEDING AND NOT NEEDING TO BE LIKED!

Likeability is a critical factor in your success. People get promoted, demoted, hired and fired based on how likeable they are. There is a little girl or boy in us who wants to be liked and there’s nothing wrong with that.

The desire to be liked is so strongly ingrained in some people that it becomes nearly impossible for them to act in any alternative manner. It’s critical to understand the difference between being liked and being respected. If you are only concerned with being liked, you will most likely miss the opportunity to be respected. You need to be liked will prelude you from taking the kinds of risks taken by those who are respected.

Conversely, if you are only concerned with being respected and not liked, you lose the support of people you may need in your encampment.

Absurdly, it’s the people who are liked and respected who are the most successful in the work endeavours.

It is important to balance your inclination to serve others need with serving your own. Self-talk to counter the need to have everyone like you all the time. It’s an impossibility.